Sometimes I keep on forgetting that when I try to live my life, I lost my dad not even two months ago. The feeling of being vulnerable makes us say things we don’t mean, do things we wouldn’t normally do, and feel like we have a grey cloud over us everywhere we go.
I started back at therapy because I believe that any healthy person can even benefit from talking through life with a professional. No one is perfect, and when we feel vulnerable, people may see us at our worst. Do you ever feel slow, tired, anxious at times, and not know what to do? Same. Today I felt like that, but I went outside with some lavender breathed in the fresh air and continued on with the day. And guess what? I made it. People who we have lost would want us to keep on living our life even at our worst.
On the bright side, you learn so much about yourself from dealing with mental illness, grief, or even life in general. Here are some things that I have learned and some things that have helped me out.
- You can take a couple steps back in life and try to find yourself, get both feet back on the ground.
- Take care of yourself before you take care of others…. it’s okay.
- Your life isn’t over. We are not guaranteed tomorrow, but that does not mean we can’t live today.
- Wake up, kick ass, and repeat. You do you because no one else can.
- Take time out of your day to process and cope with whatever you are feeling, do not bury those feelings.
- Take the nap. Your body will thank you.
- But most importantly, be gentle with yourself and others. Sometimes people don’t know what you are going through and that’s okay. They don’t need to know, but cope ahead with those feelings for when the time comes.
I have learned when to start putting my ‘big girl pants on’, and take on each life event, but hey, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger right?
For whatever reason you are reading this, take time for yourself today… it’s healthy I promise.