The “happiest time of the year”… or is it…
Now that the holiday hustle is over, I have had time to sit and really reflect on surviving my first major holiday season without my Dad.
For some of us it’s a year of firsts or continuing to survive the holidays without a loved one. Over the years of dealing with mental health, I have found it easy to start coping ahead for what you know will be a hard time.
Whether you have just lost someone or are still coping with the loss of a loved one, there is one thing we all can agree on, grieving is hard and takes a lot of energy out of you. Here are some things that I have found that have helped me, or I know they have helped someone else survive the holiday season.
- Self-Care: this has been a hot topic lately and something that I am never opposed to. Go get your nails done, get your hair done, go to the gym, journal, take time out of your day for just you… you won’t regret it.
- Stick by Family: family is always first and as sad as some may be, still stick by them. Celebrate with them. Make new traditions.
- Go on Vacation: this is something that was a treat for our family. We left the cold and went to Hawaii and my lord was it the more relaxing vacation I have ever been on. The vitamin D did us good.
- Talk about your loved one: This is something I think that some people stay away from because they do not want to cross a line. I love talking about my Dad and the memories with him. I cherish those and want others to think the same about their times with him too.
- Lastly, Celebrate: you made it this far. Now that is something to celebrate. Reflect on your past year and how strong you really are. Wake up, kick ass, repeat. You got out of bed when really, it was one of the hardest things to do that day. Remember you cannot change the past, or worry about the future, so celebrate the present times.
For whatever reason you are reading this, pass it on to someone you care about. Start the new year off right.